"Share this knowledge I read"- Common, Part 1
A few days ago I went to a friend’s house and met a wonderful woman who has been studying what seems to be a mixture of education, brain development and function, communication, psychology and spiritual truths in this physical world. Originally from Australia, she lived in Africa for some time, later in Canada and then what seemed like around the world to complete her Ph.D. and publish a series of books. To say the least, she is a remarkable woman who has dedicated her life to improving the methods of educating young people and children. We spoke briefly (about what I’ll soon share with you) and she invited myself, and everyone who was in attendance at this friends gathering, to a talk she would give on some key aspects of the understanding she’s gained in all of her life’s work- precisely the things I’ve been thinking about.
This is what it was all about… Truly fascinating stuff:
Communication- verbal and physical, the connection between the two. The way we process information. Differences in modes of brain operation and attracting, irritants, opportunities for growth with others. Our value systems. The way we process feelings- Natural Emotion and Natural Spiritual (emotion). Some of these concepts and within the context of marriage. What it means to create corals and pearls in a marriage. Development of moral judgement and the brain’s development, in the very early stages of life for the rest of an individual’s life- linked to motherhood and family life. Moderation in the way we carry out our qualities- not too much not too little. Perception and knowledge as the tools for preempting the doing a wrong.
Well seems like a bunch of themes/concepts so I’ll start trying to create a path out of these different topics that have illumined some key aspects life through this talk. There is so much to write down, for whoever is interested in this, but also to read back at a later time- so it will take a couple of Tumblr entries… This is the First:
Different, Nascent, Modes of Operation for the Brain; Processing information; and Communication.
Generally, there are three different ways a human brain can be wired. This way, in which your brain is wired, will dictate the way that you learn/process information and communicate information. There are three paths of processing information they are: (1) Thinking; (2) Doing; (3) Feeling.
The most obvious way to tell which of the three modes your brain operates is by knowing what kind of hand gestures you do. If when you speak you move your hands up and down, this means you are the first kind of mode: Thinking. You are very visual, logical, methodological- a problem solver. If you move your hands back and forth, then you are very interactive. You must actually do things yourself to learn. You need to use your physical senses like touch etc. If you move your hands horizontally, then you are like me, and learn things indirectly. We use the limbic system within the brain to process information. We see the relations between things to learn and to experience the world.
I was most fascinated by this last mode of learning, not only because, as this woman helped me discover is the way that my mind operates, but that it has the capacity to process a lot of information at one time, in indirect ways. I am not always in the moment because my brain creates an understanding of things not only by the things that are directly communicated to me, like what you may say to me, but your physical/facial expressions, tone of voice, my surroundings. As you speak I am thinking about who you truly are, I think about what you might be doing in the future or what you went through in your past, the environment- all to get an understanding of the current moment. I love this, but it also has its own pitfalls, like all things great ;) which all of these different modes of brain operation have.
Well this being said, she moved on to the another level of comprehension:
These hand gestures which tell of our way of processing information, also tell us how we communicate, and also what we need to receive from the speaker or the current event in order to fully grasp or effectively grasp what we are learning or what is being said to us.
I wasn’t paying as much attention to the other modes of operation as my own, but what I can say for numbers one and two, is that one or the other, requires a lot of attention to detail, they are very much in the moment, require and give a lot of context when they are speaking and are present in the moment (any moment).
Well… Just to give a glimpse on my own mode of operation:
I am very goal oriented. I may skip a lot of detail and just want to get to the point when I’m speaking. Because I’m not very detail oriented, those who are listening might get lost in my conversation. I want to communicate concepts that may require a certain level of commonality in understanding and because I don’t give that much context, which is linked to the whole details part, then it may be difficult for others to understand. Macro, concepts, emotion, relational.
( By the way, I love this science behind the brain because it allowed me to understand that the way that I communicate isn’t wrong or right, it’s unique to me, although it is shared with many others who’s brain operates in the same mode. It helps not to feel frustrated with myself or others when I’m trying to communicate now. Now I just think, well that’s the way that my brain is wired so it’s ok, I just need to identify the way that this other person processes information, and do my best to accommodate them. Also, to say that I can’t change the way that my brain processes information is not feeling defeated- it’s just as this scientist said- the brain is born with a certain mode of operation, we just have to do our best to understand it and find different ways of communicating that although may not be second nature to us, will help us along the way. )
The beauty about knowing this is that this information can then be utilized not only to learn more effective ways of communicating, but for you to learn your strengths and weaknesses, and then work on them.
I won’t close here, only because the other themes listed are to come :)